The Four-Way Test

This is a story about a time when I got my feelings hurt by a good friend and used the 4-Way Test to solve it. At Awana some kid told me that my friend Erin said that I was mean and I said, “Really?”. Erin and I have been friends since we were four, how could she say that about me? That kid told me not to tell Erin, so I said, “ok”. So then I stopped and thought for a minute, is this true? Is it fair to all concerned? Will it build good will and better friendships? Will it be beneficial to all concerned?

It may not be true because some people just try to hurt your feelings for no reason. It’s not fair that my friend talked about me behind my back to someone else instead of just telling me. Also, if she told me I was mean it would make me feel like she does not like me. This does not benefit all concerned because I have my feelings hurt either way. Sometimes I think it’s best to not say anything if it’s not a nice thing to say. I should teach my friends the 4-Way Test so that they will not talk about me behind my back anymore and I will do the same thing too.